Posts Tagged ‘Bullycide’

Bullycide again! According to foxnews.com a 10-Year-Old North Carolina Girl Hangs Herself After Allegedly Being Bullied at School. I for one am sick of reading these stories. It makes me heartsick and sick to my stomach. As a simpleminded martial Arts teacher, I’d like to think that if every boy and girl would learn martial arts these situations could be avoided. Of course it’s more complex than that. There are so many factors. It is important for the child to be able to communicate with their parents; to able to tell them anything. If not, the parent will be surprised when something like this happens. Often the school staff can’t or won’t do anything or are unaware. It also amazes me that a 10-year old could have the wherewithal and determination to kill themselves. RIP, Jasmine McClain.

Recent “Bullycides” are spurring lawmakers to write laws to prevent these tragedies from happening. As with all such well-meaning legislation, I wonder if it will be effective, or instead have adverse effects.  The web definition of  Bullycide is, “A suicide caused as the result of depression from bullying, especially children.”  Most of the stories I have read about involve teens and pre-teens, so ages ten to 18.  A percentage of these kids are gay, but certainly not all. Some of the cases I have read about go well beyond bullying into outright assault.  That’s why I wonder about new laws, there are already laws on the books against assault. Of course if these new laws really work to prevent bullying, then I am all for them. I’ll guess we’ll have to pass them to see what’s in them, and if they work.

So what’s the answer? Well it’s a complicated issue, so there is no easy answer.  As a martial arts instructor, I am of course biased in my opinion, but do believe self-defense training works. I was bullied as a kid, and I didn’t want my boys to go through that, so I started them both in Karate at age 4.  I posted yesterday about how my son got out of headlock in school.  At first I was a little disappointed that my son didn’t use more force in countering the move, but upon reflection, I think he used the appropriate amount, i.e. just enough, to end the conflict and walk away. I am proud because I taught this Krav Maga move to him only a few weeks ago.  When the other kid threw the headlock, my son thought, “Oh perfect, I know how to get out of this,” then he did. Hopefully this ends it, time will tell.